Relationships are tough, in the best way possible though. Paul and I aren’t even married yet, but I see what people are saying when they say that marriage is hard.
I am learning though that the hard part isn’t us, or making “us” work. That is the easy part. The hard part is making sure that I am giving it my all every day, because that is what Paul does. He is such a great example of what it means to love unconditionally, always treat me fairly, and to be consistent in his love and what he gives to the relationship.
And then there is me… the hot mess of the duo…
The great thing about a healthy, loving relationship (in my mind) is that it demands the best of you, but loves you still at your worst. It forgives your faults, reminds you of your strengths, and kicks you in the ass when you need a push, making you grow. I can only give as much to my relationship as I am giving to myself, if that makes sense. If I am suffering, my relationship suffers.
Paul, sometimes to my chagrin, knows what I am capable of, knows what I deserve, and is there to push me if he thinks I am accepting less or performing below my best.
I am a creative soul who happens to be a Gemini, and painfully stubborn (sorry about this, world, it is just the way my cocktail was mixed), so sometimes I need this push (as I am confident he will in the future… he can’t be perfect forever!), and a reminder that I owe it to myself to bring my A game every day.
Damn, I hate it when he is right.